Hi love! Welcome back to Boldly Courageous, a podcast created for you — the ambitious woman who is ready to take action and step fully into the life you’ve always dreamed of. I’m so glad you’re here!
Confidence — in this world of comparison, it’s something we often let slip. We’re so guilty of undervaluing our self-worth. Confidence is about owning your story, your truth. It’s about leaning into your gifts and stepping into the best version of who you are. Confidence is living a boldly courageous life and embracing the abundance mindset. Babe, you are far more capable than you think!
In today’s society, living an abundant life can be tough. We’re driven by the superficial behaviors we see on social media, and we’re missing that genuine honesty. Life isn’t perfect. We all experience adversity and struggle. I always say it’s not happening to you, it’s happening for you. My guest today, Doug Bopst, has a life outlook that embodies this so perfectly.
I’m so excited to share with you today’s episode and to introduce you to my friend Doug. He just embodies unapologetic confidence. Doug’s sense of 100% authenticity is boldly courageous, and there’s so much we can learn from his approach to life.
He shares everything, the good and the bad, his mistakes, and his successes. Like, he literally hides nothing. Today we talk about Doug’s story with confidence and give you tips on how to start your journey. I can’t wait to get into it.
Who Is Doug Bopst?
Doug Bopst is an award-winning personal trainer, author, speaker, and business owner. His journey hasn’t been easy. He’s struggled with drug addiction and is a former felon, sentenced to months in jail after being found guilty of “possession with intent to sell.” When he was locked away in prison, he chose to use the time to face his demons and reinvented himself.
Since then, Doug has helped hundreds of people turn their lives around, just like he did, improving their health and wellness. He has written three books and has been featured nationally in media outlets like The Today Show, Men’s Health, Goalcast, and Thrive Global, to name a few. He’s been on a ton of podcasts, including Impact Theory, Rise Together Podcast, Rich Roll Podcast, This Life with Dr. Drew, and One37pm. He has also been featured on local media outlets in his hometown such as WBAL 11, WJZ 13, and WMAR 2 and in the Baltimore Sun as one of Baltimore’s “12 Fitness Heroes” in 2015.
From Felony to Fitness to Free, a short documentary about his story, premiered at The Reel Recovery Film Festival in Los Angeles and New York City in 2018. He has spoken to and worked with many companies, organizations, and schools, including McCormick and the Clemson football team. Today, Doug is an online coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer.
What I love most about Doug is his authenticity. He owns his truth absolutely, and every conversation I have with him is fucking incredible. I could honestly talk to him for hours. I just feel safe in his energy because I know exactly where I stand. I’m so grateful for his ability to own his story and his message. It’s how he helps people become better versions of themselves.
How to Start Owning Your Truth
Before we got into the details of owning his truth, I asked Doug if there was something boldly courageous that he had done recently. Doug’s response was, “I ran 2000 steps in 98-degree heat last week.” Some might call this boldly courageous; others may call it something else!
Regardless, Doug said the experience reminded him of what it feels like to be pushed by somebody. It helped him remember how important your mind is — the only reason he got through it was because he refused to give up mentally. You know how much I support this mindset — it’s about trusting yourself and your ability.
When I asked Doug how he got out of his head and started owning his truth, he talked about avoiding the comparison game. The first thing you have to do is accept that it’s okay to compare. It’s human nature, and we’re just wired that way. The problem with playing this game is that people don’t know when to stop, and before you know it, you’re in full-blown self-sabotage mode.
“They start going down this rabbit hole of what I don’t have, which puts you in a lack mindset, instead of what you do have, which will put you in an abundant mindset. [Focus] on what you can gain and how you can grow. I think we have to accept the fact that we are limitless when we are focused on ourselves. We have the ability to continue to grow and evolve, and we shouldn’t be comparing our chapter one or chapter two to somebody else’s chapter 21.”Doug Bopst
I love how Doug describes this. Think about it — how many times have you done exactly this? When you’re going through a tough time, and your friends or family’s successes make you feel inadequate. You can’t let it. You can’t compare what you’re going through and where you are with someone else. If you’re too focused on running their race, you’re going to lose your own.
“I think the reason we compare ourselves isn’t that we want that person’s life, it’s because we’re not content with who we are as a person. I sat in a lot of silence in my early twenties, and I asked myself a lot of questions. Because of that, I became so confident in myself. That’s not to say there weren’t roadblocks, but the more you do it, the more confident you’ll be in getting there.”Doug Bopst
To own your truth, you need to have clear intentions and accept where you are now and the journey ahead. This sounds simple, but it’s not. It wasn’t always easy for Doug. It took a lot of courage to tell his first client how he really found fitness in jail, but the more he was honest with his clients, the more he started to own his story.
Doug realized that he wasn’t going to please everyone, that some people would turn away because of his past, and that some people would admire him for turning his life around. Some would even be inspired to do the same.
Once you accept that not everyone is going to like you, your self-confidence can really develop. You have to start by taking messy action, getting feedback, and then refining your process. It’ll be hard at first, but the more you repeat it, the more confident you’ll become.
To sum it up, finding and defining your confidence starts with owning your story. You can’t hide from your past or be ashamed of what you’ve done. You have to accept that it’s part of who you are. Building confidence starts with a laser focus on your own journey. Try not to compare yourself and acknowledge that you’re not going to please everyone. Once you pivot and break through this barrier, your road to abundance is a whole lot smoother.
How to Continue Self Development
When it comes to mastering your confidence, it’s essential to understand that at some point, you’re going to plateau. This is where you have to take it up a level. Even if you think you’re stable and you’ve got it all figured out, there’ll be something that requires you to take messy action to keep building that confidence.
Doug has turned his truth into his job. He’s so confident in sharing his story that it’s become his service, and he’s built his life around it, but I asked him what still scares the shit out of him, and what he does to overcome it. The key is community.
“Your inner circle is so important, who you surround yourself with. Because if you’re going through a hard time and you need to gain confidence and you’re surrounded by people enabling you and being pessimistic or complaining and bringing you down, it’s not going to serve you. You won’t continue to grow.”Doug Bopst
You have to surround yourself with people that bring out the best in you. And if you’re in relationships that don’t do that, you have to be willing to let go. For Doug, this meant ending a relationship that wasn’t serving him anymore. For Doug, this was the messy action that pushed his personal development over the plateau.
“I immediately knew that I wanted to work on myself and invest this extra energy. How can I grow? What can I learn? How do I respond to this?”Doug Bopst
I have to acknowledge Doug’s level of self-awareness with this break-up. The way he understands his actions and pivots his reactions, it’s why he’s so inspiring.
It reminds me of a book by Christine Hassler called Expectation Hangover. She talks about this attachment, and this expectation we have that life will turn out a certain way. Whether it’s your career or personal life, we expect how it’s going to be. And when it doesn’t actually work out that way, it’s like a hangover effect. We feel grief, even anger. Sometimes we feel lost, but this is the problem.
Often we’re so attached to outcomes and expectations we miss what’s right in front of us. If you can start to really shift your perspective and focus on the process and what you’re learning, you’ll tap into your future self.
To take it up a level, you need to be hyper honest. You need to surround yourself with like-minded people who will solidify that confidence. Build a strong support network, a community with shared values. Life is cyclical, and even when you’re on top of your game, the punches will come at you. You need to own the confidence that you can recover — make it your mission to decide how.
How to Tell Your Story
As an entrepreneur, I loved chatting with Doug about our careers. These days there’s a lot of duplication or imitation in the world of network marketing. Whether it’s your business model or your brand, that uniqueness factor is often missing. This comes down to a lack of confidence, so how do you tell your story effectively?
“I would say the first step is to step outside of the network marketing company. Ask yourself what inspired you to get into network marketing? Why were you struggling? What are the benefits of sharing your story?”Doug Bopst
If you really want to successfully share your story; you need to think about your audience, they need to feel like you understand them. Having empathy is so important. That’s what will attract people to your channels. Some of the most successful posts I see are the ones where people are super real and raw. If you really want to hook people, show them the climb you’ve had to make, not just the finished product.
To call yourself a genuine entrepreneur in network marketing means you can’t follow the program. No one can relate to perfection, am I right? Even the most confident network marketers aren’t perfect. They own their imperfections.
“If you’re not good at telling your story, it’s because you’re not confident in who you are. That’s an important lesson. Get your story down, get competent in the mess because while success is cool, they want to know how you got there.”Doug Bopst
Vulnerability and authenticity are critical to genuine connection. When you achieve both of these, people trust you, and everything you share makes sense. There is so much fear in network marketing, so much fear in being authentic. Don’t compare yourself to other network marketers in year seven of their career — you have to start somewhere. It goes right back to owning your truth and taking that messy action.
Be Boldly Courageous with Doug Bopst
Doug’s story with confidence has had such an impact on me. There is so much power in his truth, his honesty, and his vulnerability. If you want to shape your confidence, you need to start owning your truth and accepting your story.
Doug’s experience in network marketing is profound. He’s got this new level of understanding of how to pivot your channels to gain success. As an entrepreneur, his story-telling is filled with passion, and every time I talk with him, we have the best conversation. His authenticity is everything.
If you’re interested in health and fitness or learning more about network marketing, I highly encourage you to slide into his Instagram DMs or visit his website. To read his books, check him out on Amazon.
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Thank you so much for reading! Until next time, don’t forget to live your boldly courageous life!