Hey babe! Welcome back! Boldly Courageous is podcast created for you — the ambitious woman who’s ready to step into the life she’s always dreamed of. I’m grateful you’re here!
I am so grateful to each and every one of you for joining me today. And I genuinely believe you’ll be glad you did because today, I’m going to give you some fantastic tools that will help you actually achieve your goals.
I think that tools like these are necessary because as easy as it is to set goals, it can be incredibly difficult to achieve them. I mean, it’s not so difficult in the beginning, right? You’re fired up and inspired in the beginning, so you’re walking around feeling confident and empowered, and you’re making decisions that will progress you toward your goals.
But as time passes, it becomes more challenging. You run into roadblocks along the path. Life gets in the way. You find it harder and harder not to fall back into your old patterns, and you wind up right back where you started.
It’s a frustrating and discouraging cycle, but I’m here today to tell you that you can get out of it. The secret? Planning. When you plan ahead and put systems in place to prevent yourself from falling back on your old patterns undoing all your awesome progress.
You can achieve your goals, babe. Let’s dive in.
Get Crystal-Clear on Your “Why”
Here’s the thing: When it comes to setting your goals, it’s essential to have intentions, but the why behind your intentions is just as important. If you are not crystal-clear on the why behind your goals, you will not achieve them. You just won’t. You have to firmly anchor yourself into the reasons why your goals fit into your big-picture vision for yourself, and you have to recall that “why” in your mind every time you are faced with a decision.
Let me give you an example from my own life. When I think about myself and how I want to show up in my life and my business, I think of two things: I want to be healthier, and I want to be wealthier. And I believe those two things are connected — I cannot show up for my business and serve my clients and earn the wealth I desire if I don’t take care of my health first. So, managing my health has to be my number one priority.
Now I take care of my health in a number of ways. I’m careful about what I eat. I have invested in a personal trainer, and I try to do some form of exercise at least three days a week. But it’s not always easy to show up for myself and make the healthy choice.
For example, sometimes — like right now — a big bowl of pasta with butter and cheese sounds like a delicious dinner. But I know that the grilled chicken and salad I’ve already prepared is a much healthier choice for me. So how do I choose what to eat for dinner? I ask myself, “Which choice fits into my greater vision for my life?” And the truth is, while that big bowl of pasta sounds yummy, I know that my already-prepper healthy dinner is the choice that’s going to get me closer to that ultimate vision for my life. It’s the choice that’s in alignment with my “why,” and that realization helps fuel better decisions.
Before we even talk about your specific goals, I want you to take some time to think about your ultimate vision for yourself and your life. Who is the future version of yourself you are striving to become? What does she look like? What is her job like? What are her hobbies? Who are her friends? And most importantly: why do those things matter to you? Why do you want that body? That career? Those hobbies? Those friends?
I want to encourage you to sincerely ask yourself those questions and write down your answers in a journal. And go into detail! I want you to establish absolute clarity about your hopes, dreams, and values. Then, next time you need to make a decision for yourself or your business or a relationship, you can go back to your journal and ask, “How do these options each fit into my vision? Which one fuels my why?” And from there, let your clarity guide you. I guarantee you’ll find it much easier to make the choices that best serve you and your purpose.
Break Up Large Visions Into Small-Term Goals
Once you are absolutely clear on the why behind your intentions, it’s time to set very specific goals. And once you set those goals, set even more specific goals. When you break your goals down into tiny, granular micro-goals, you make each task more manageable. You simply achieve a small goal after a small goal, and eventually, they add up to the bigger goal that fits into your big-picture vision for your life.
I’ll use myself as an example again. I know that I want to bring the maximum amount of energy to my life, my family, and my business every day. That’s the “why” behind my goal of being healthier, right? Okay, so how can I break up my goal of being healthier into small, non-negotiable tasks that I can do every single day?
For one thing, I sleep with my phone in a different room and on airplane mode. I know that if my phone is in the room with me and I have the option of checking my notifications and scrolling through social media as soon as I open my eyes in the morning, I’m going to do it. And if I do that, I know that my energy level will be lower, and I won’t choose to wake up, meditate, journal, and do the other things I know I need to do to show up for myself that day. So, before bed, I put my phone in another room and set it to airplane mode so that I can only see all my notifications when I’m ready to handle them.
Think about a big goal you have. Maybe you want to add a new stream of revenue to your business. That’s awesome! So with that goal in mind, what are some small tasks you can do to ensure you’re making a little progress toward that bigger goal every single day?
Maybe for you, that means sending five emails to potential investors every day before lunch. Perhaps it means spending the last 30 minutes of your workday writing for the podcast you want to launch. Be creative here! The important thing is that you create small, manageable tasks that you can do every day to advance yourself toward your larger goal.
Here’s the thing: big goals just can’t be achieved overnight. You can eat a salad for lunch and spend some time on your Peloton and expect to have abs the next day — it just doesn’t work like that. Goals have to be achieved over time. They need consistent, dedicated effort over a period of days, weeks, months, or even years, depending on the goal. So the bottom line is that you have to create ways to keep making progress every single day.
It all comes down to these micro decision-making processes. If you can consistently make choices to achieve your tiniest goals every day, eventually, all those small decisions will add up, and you will see massive results in your life.
And I’m saying that from experience. I’ve been putting effort into my health for a while, and I am truly starting to see the results I desire. By making small, micro-decisions every day, I am beginning to see my abs. My legs are starting to feel more toned. I can feel my energy shifting, and I’m confident that I am growing into the strong and healthy woman I desire to be. I celebrate each of these small wins, and I look forward to the day when I need to set new goals because I’ve achieved the old ones.
Why You Should Listen Right Now…
Babe, I hope this episode inspired you. I hope it made you feel empowered to take on your goals — because I genuinely believe with all my heart that you can achieve them. It just takes careful consideration of your ultimate “why” and consistent setting and achieving your tiniest goals every day.
If all that sounds good, but you’re still thinking, “I don’t know, Melissa, I’m just not sure I can do it on my own,” I want you to know that I hear you. I get it. And if that’s you, I want to encourage you to pursue coaching.
I have been participating in a network marketing team called the Ignite Academy, where I get to take part in group coaching with other women. We meet bi-weekly to discuss our goals and hold each other accountable. The experience has been invaluable for me — it’s forced me to show up for myself in a whole new way, and I’ve made incredible progress toward my goals as a result.
If coaching is something you think might be right for you, I really want you to encourage you to look for options. There are countless opportunities for online coaching out there, and an investment in the right coach could make the difference between reaching your goals six months from now and reaching them six years from now.
If you have questions about coaching, thoughts on this episode, or if you just want to say hi, please feel free to slide into my DMs! I’m on Instagram @themelissamartin. Seriously, I love hearing from you ladies! And I’d love to help you on your journey to reach the highest version of yourself, so please reach out to me over on Insta!
Thanks so much for joining me today, babe. I hope these tools helped you and inspired you. Now get out there and keep living your boldly courageous life — one tiny step at a time.
Talk to you later!