Hello, beautiful! Thanks for joining me today and welcome back to Boldly Courageous, a podcast created for you — the ambitious woman who is ready to take action and step fully into the life you’ve always dreamed of. I’m so grateful for you!
I’m recording this episode from Scottsdale, Arizona on 11/11 — a date with so much energy. 11/11 really represents an energetic portal. If you’re into spiritual stuff, I recommend you look up what 11/11 means and the power behind numbers. 11/11 really represents the opportunity for expansion and manifestation.
For me personally, I am sitting in my feelings right now. I believe this is part of the growing pains of expansion. But, bottom line — I’m in a funk, and today I want to share some insight with you into what it looks like to hustle through a funk. The old “me” would try to push through this low energy, but today, I know in my heart that hustling MORE doesn’t actually get the outcome that we want.
First, let me give you some background. The reason I’m in Scottsdale is that I’m exploring whether this city could be my new home. I’m visiting different neighborhoods and checking out apartments and different properties. And, unfortunately, what I’m finding is that nothing is actually feeling really good. None of the places I’ve seen really match my energy.
This whole process is bringing up a lot of my limiting beliefs around money, scarcity, and self-worth. I feel resistance tied to feelings of worthiness and my ability to generate money, attract abundance, and feel supported. I’m judging whether I’m capable of making “smart” decisions because, in the past, I’ve made a few financial mistakes.
It’s really ironic that these feelings are coming up for me on 11/11, but I guess the universe is telling me something! This is a pattern of behavior that I find comes up a lot, not just for me but also for my clients, friends, and family members. Life is cyclical — nature, seasons, and our energy cycles are all in a flow. There are highs, and there are lows. To expect that we’re never going to be in a funky period of life is unrealistic. We’re going to have good days. We’re going to have bad days. We’ll have days when our energy is super high and days when energy is super low.
You can’t necessarily control whether it’s a good day or a bad day, but you can change your approach to getting through these funky periods! That’s what this blog post is all about!
Don’t Hustle Through the Funk
For so many of us, our first instinct is to try to push through a funk. But what I have found is that by listening to ourselves and tapping into what the energy is telling us, we can actually navigate through the funk in a much healthier way.
In the past, I wouldn’t give myself permission to slow down and listen to what a low period was telling me. I had this belief that I would lose money, that my team would think I was quitting on them, that I was being wishy-washy. I would hustle through, and tell myself, “I have too much responsibility right now to slow down.”
Babe, nothing about hustling through a funk creates the results that you actually want. It’s your ego that likes it.
When we put off getting the thing that we really need, which is space, a pause, and a container to process whatever emotions that we want, we prolong the low period. In reality, pushing through the funk lowers the vibration of every single thing we’re creating. When you show up to a dinner date with a friend — when what you’d really be doing is sitting on the couch eating ice cream — you’re dishonoring yourself and the friendship, since you’re not fully showing up and being present for that person.
It comes down to your values. How much do you value your work, your clients, your job, and your relationships? Is hustling through and showing up in that way that doesn’t feel good going to serve that person? You know the answer, babe!
Make Space for the Funk
Of course, there are some instances where you genuinely can’t cancel your plans or slow down to lean into the funk. What do you do if there are things that you absolutely cannot cancel?What can you do to make it work? What can you do right now to protect your energy?
Figure out ways you can still honor yourself. Maybe that means asking for help or delegating to someone else. Perhaps it means pushing out a deadline or rescheduling so that you can reserve the energy you need for the thing you can’t cancel. Often, we create stories in our minds around why we can’t cancel things. But I understand that in some situations you literally have no choice. So if you have no choice, what can you do to put yourself in a state and mindset where you feel honored and supported? What do you need to make sure you can show up in a way that aligns with your values?
Part of that is learning how to communicate what you need to someone. For me, language is everything. You don’t have to apologize for how you feel. You can be clear around your intention to create space, process your emotions, and show up meaningfully once you’ve gone through this funk. When you reschedule with someone, communicate what your values are, and then give your clients, friends, and family other options.
Setting boundaries is ultimately how you can create really beautiful relationships and expectations. Understand, too, that if a friend cancels, it’s not about you. Respect their boundaries.
How to Process a Funk
So babe, when you feel your energy sinking and realize that you’re about to be in a lower vibration, take steps to create space for the funk and communicate your boundaries to others. But how can you move through this funk and come out as a stronger, more boldly courageous person?
When it comes to hustling through funk and actually making these decisions to move things around in your day, start by having awareness in your body. When you wake up in the morning and you feel this heaviness, just ask yourself, “Where is it coming from?”
Make a list of the things that your body is telling you. Ask yourself, “What do I need? What am I craving? What would help me feel the most supported?” From there, take action to do the things that are on your list that will actually make you feel good — without judgment. It might be taking a hot shower and crying. It might be going for a walk without your cell phone and getting out in nature and just listening to birds. It might be journaling!
This is how we actually get through the funk quicker. Sometimes there’s a limiting belief that if we take a whole day off and cancel, we’ll have too much to catch up on, and we’ll be behind, and we’ve failed. In reality, pushing through is going to be unproductive and actually prolong the funk.
I think it’s so important to give ourselves mental health days and to just sit with our feelings and not try and bypass them. Try to create a new story around taking time for yourself. There’s value in honoring your feelings and setting aside a space for mental health.
It can also help to make a contingency plan for the next time a funk hits. For me, I have some podcast episodes that I’ve got in my back pocket. If I don’t feel like recording one, I have some that I’ve been saving for a time like this. I can post those up and get on with my day on the couch watching TV. It’s nice to have a safety net — a plan that can help you feel less stressed the next time this happens.
Give Yourself Permission
My message to you today is to please give yourself permission to sit in the funk, whatever it is. Take the full space that you need because what’s on the other side is going to be so much more productive, rewarding, and energizing.
The thing you’re afraid of — losing money, momentum, or clients — will not be as scary on the other side of this funk. When you go through something like this, you come out with more capacity to serve, more momentum, creativity, and passion. The more you push off processing what you’re going through, the more elusive those outcomes will feel. When you try and be productive and hustle through a funk, you’ll probably stay in it for four or five days as opposed to giving yourself 24 to 48 hours to actually move through it.
Babe, thanks so much for reading! If you know someone who needs to hear this message, I’d be so grateful if you shared this with them. And, let me know your strategies for moving through a funk. Are you a Netflix and chill type, or a nature and journaling type, or both? Tag me, @themelissamartin, on Instagram with a screenshot of the episode and your greatest takeaways.
Thank you so much for reading, babe. See you next time!